Where did the nicknames for yourself and your partners come from?
Tee hee. Fun question <3
My nickname has been Spider since I was 8 years old. I was very awkwardly thin and tall growing up and often thought anorexic although I have never had an eating disorder. My 8th Summer I went on a family camping trip/boating and it was the fist time in my life I had seen my uncle without a shirt on. In all my 8 years I had never seen a man covered in SO much chest and back hair so I ran around calling him “Uncle Monkey” all weekend long. He took it all in good humor and proclaimed that if he were a “monkey” then I was a “spider” because I had spindly limbs, liked to climb things and I was “mean” haha. The nickname stuck and became a family nickname. I have always loved it because I identified with the whole “misunderstood but awesome” animal concept. I was always interested in Goth clothing styles in middle and high school so it was really quite a fitting nickname to go along with my darker wardrobe themes. As an adult I really do love spiders and learning about them. The nickname really has followed me nearly my entire life.
Glowbug got his nickname kinda impulsively. When I first met him he told me that he had been a 90s raver kandi kid and very soon into our relationship I realized just how much he genuinely enjoyed all things Glowy/Glowstick, LED, Black Light, just all around fun. One of his simple but happy little pleasures was playing with glowsticks. I had never been around a Raver (or ex raver) kid so the glowstick love was very uniquely him. I tried to find him a nickname and my first thought was Glow-“something”. Bug just seemed to fit. Spider and Glowbug. Yes, it sounded pretty cute. Especially if you picture a cartoon glowbug holding glowsticks as I did in my head. *I will also add that to Glowbug’s friends he is also called “Weirdass” since College and that Glowbug’s special nickname for me is “Snugglepuff” or “Snugglepoof” depending on my hair style. haha.
Enigma’s nickname is in a few ways a bit self explanatory. (Enigma: a person or thing that is mysterious, puzzling, or difficult to understand.) He kinda defied everything I believed about myself and relationships. I NEVER date guys or girls younger than me. I almost never find guys attractive. I never would have considered opening my marriage had it not been for him. I never dated guys I genuinely thought were physically “out of my league (aka pretty boys)”, I never dated outwardly flirty boys and had to deal with jealousy, I have always dated shy boys not outgoing fire performers and flair bartender type boys haha He represented a zillion relationship firsts emotionally and intimidated me in nearly every way possible….BUT I always felt he was worth it. Even though he made me insecure and afraid at times, he was the first boy I ever attempted to work through those things for. He is MY enigma because he made me thing about, reevaluate, and question everything about myself. To Enigma’s friends he has been called “Mango” since High School.
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Can we just have lesbians post here. Bisexuals don't belong here
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This is really fucking important. I’m so tired of getting shit from both sides of the sexuality spectrum. Being neither strictly lesbian or strictly straight and having a woman comment saying my fluid sexuality “is a shame” is ridiculous. Stop hating on things that differ from yourself. The LGBTQ community gets enough hate from those on the outside looking in, we don’t need any more from within our own community.
This needs to stop.